13 year olds in love!

While browsing the net Ellen Degeneres tweeted about Justin Bieber. There was a link of him performing on the show. He is signing a song called “One time”. So I comment on the post saying

“Why is a 15 year old singing about love? I don’t know, it sounds wrong to me. Other than tht he has a good voice.”

To which I got a reply saying…

“i think its fine that hes singing about love! im in love and im 13:)”

Yes, and so does almost every 13 year old. So i decided to reply again…

“I thought I was in love when I was 13 too. I doubt you are “in love’.”

I remember, I had the biggest crush on this boy names Chris. I ended up liking him for over a year and a half. I was totally infatuated with him. I had a diary and it was always filled with entries about him. I only got to see him once a week, and it was always a special day when I seen him. I remember that one night I’d see him, would be all I’d look forward to all week. Well, anyway he ended up being my first boyfriend. Can you imagine, after obsessing over a boy for so long and finding out he liked he liked you too? it was amazing! I felt like it wasn’t real. I was supposed to be *not so secretly* admiring him. (Everyone knew I liked him. Not that I told everyone. I told my family and friends, and well, my little sister has a big mouth.) He was the first boy I ever kissed on the lips. Oh, I was soooo in love. Except I ended up breaking up with him a few weeks later. Turns out he was nothing like the person I though he was. Seeing him once a week to every week day (I ended up going to school with him. his Dad even took me to school and home each day.) changed how i seen him. Well, it actually made me see what he was really like.

So anyway, the girl replied again…

“i am in love”

And this is what I replied with…

“Is this the first time you’ve felt this way? Like, I’m not trying to be mean or anything like that at all, it’s just, how many 13 year old’s do you know that end up breaking up with their boyfriend/girlfriends? And how many do you know that stay together? The kind of love I am talking about is the kind that lasts forever. Not until you don’t like them anymore. it’s so much more than love hearts, and funny feelings you feel inside. So much more than them always being on your mind, or you wanting to always be around them. When I was 13 I felt like I was so grown up. I felt like I was in love. I now see that, that was not love at all. infatuation, and crushes are not love. At 13 you shouldn’t even be worried about falling in love. Let love find you, and enjoy being a teenager.

When you’re older you’ll understand what I’m saying, I hope!”

Like, I’m not saying I know what love is. I’m still trying to figure it out. But I am pretty sure I have a better idea than she does. And sure, she may love him, as a person. But in love, seriously? “Love” has been watered down so much these days. I’ve heard so many teenagers talk about marriage, and how much they love their partner. (Even I have done that, when I was 15! – I feel so stupid now. ) But they always break up. Ok, so I’m sure there are people who have fallen in love at 13, and married, and stayed happily married…. (Possibly anyway) but honestly, a 13 year old thinks she’s in love. I don’t think she’s matured enough to even comprehend real LOVE! The kind of love you need in a marriage! Not this stupid butterflies and mushy feelings. What most people get are the symptoms of love, so they think they’re in love, they fail to see they don’t have the actual disease! (Hmm, maybe disease was a bad metaphor for love. O.O)

She replied with this…

“its the first time and i no im in love”

I just replied with

“Yeah, so tell me in 5 years if you’re still in love with the same person, and I’ll be more likely to believe you. “

Maybe I’m the only one who feels this way? What do you think? This just looks like a case of puppy-love to me. And i guess I’m just sick of hearing teenagers talk about being in love, when they are clearly not IN LOVE.